Just had a great conversation with a friend. I’ve known her all my life, and we’ve always been able to talk to one another. We were talking and I mentioned that we’d been friends for so long, I can’t remember life when I didn’t know her. We were babies together ( got pics to prove it, lol) and we grew up spending our summers together at each other’s houses. I even call her Granny, my granny, and her uncles and aunts are like my extended family, as well. Even though we live too far to just run and visit one another now, we still make time to chat. She said something to me today that she hasn’t ever really told me before, and it sure meant a lot. She let me know that she appreciated so much me being there for her, no matter what, and that I had been strength to her in her rough times. Now you might say, “Well, so? You’ve been friends for 30+ years you much have known how she felt?!?” But the thing is, we may KNOW. We may understand without saying the words. But it’s so nice to hear it . Even though we have people in our daily lives, spouses, friends, children , those that we interact with on any kind of regular basis, don’t ASSUME they know how you feel. Don’t be too proud , or too busy to say, “I love you.” “Thanks for all you do.” Or even , “I’m so glad you are my friend.” As my friend so wisely put it, “I didn’t want one more day to go by, and have something happen. I didn’t want to tell your family, instead of you, how very much you meant to me.” I’m so glad she didn’t wait.
I’m weird. Yep. Totally. Completely. Weird. I have proof. I didn’t have proof before, it was just a sneaking suspicion, really. Kind of a niggling doubt in the back of my mind. But , after trolling FB today, I have located quantifiable proof that I am strange . Well, at least for my gender anyway.
What made me realize this today? I did not post a picture of my Valentine’s gift or post a status ABOUT my Valentine’s gift. Why not? I didn’t GET a Valentine’s Day gift. SHOCK. HORROR! AWE! That’s right I said my husband of 15 years did NOT get me a gift on the DAY of days for romance. He didn’t get me anything yesterday for it, or the day before, either.
Now let me say, I do not begrudge people who post their sweet pictures of their loved ones. I love seeing all the neat ways that people show their love for one another! Roses! Candy ! Jewelry! These are all great, and hubs HAS bought me all those things in the past. But hear me out . I just don’t seem to care about those things anymore. They just don’t matter to me. I am not a huge jewelry wearer. Don’t much care for diamonds. If I wear “real” gemstones, I like unusual things with colors or something non traditional. Mostly I just wear the cheap stuff. You know 3 for $5 at CATOs. 🙂
I don’t really want roses or flowers that are going to die in a few weeks. I would so much rather have a planted rose to enjoy for a long time.
And candy. Seriously, ladies. Let’s be honest with each other. We buy that stuff for ourselves. No man needed! I do NOT wait for my husband to surprise me with chocolates when in need of my happy place!
I suppose people will ask me , “Don’t you miss the romance?” Well, maybe I just define romance in a different way. After all, my hubs just took me to have my gallbladder out at like, 5 in the morning. After all the pain, I’d been in from that stupid thing, THAT was a romantic gift!
So, I hope everyone got what they truly wanted for HEARTS day. If you didn’t, ladies, take a page from my book and just tell the significant other, “Know what? Don’t go shop for a gift for me. Just leave me the checkbook, that way I’ll get what I REALLY want!” 🙂