About Me~, chronic illness, inspirational, Uncategorized, Writing

Kill ’em with Kindness (Well,you know metaphorically, and what not. )



Top o’ the mornin’ to you all my spoonie warriors! It is once again dreary and grey , with that drizzle that seems determined to make everything a soggy mess. The world seems completed muted of color when it does that, which I think is why it makes me sad. I’m a great lover of color. Great , large , looming , vivacious splashes of it. But anywho, I digress. We’re supposed to be getting on with our “26 Days, 26 Ways” series . ( I apologize for the randomness of all of this, my husband will tell you I suffer from ADOS . Attention Deficit OOH! SHINY!!) So back on track I go. 🙂

So far we’ve got………..

A: Acknowledge and Accept

B: Breathe.

C. Find  Comfort

D. Get a Doctor or team of them you can trust

E. Exercise ~ even if it’s just a scoonch ( Hey ! Scoonch is a word!)

F. Have Faith

G. Set a Goal , even if it seems small

H. Hugs! Everybody needs them!

I.  Sometimes we need, Isolation 

J. Rid yourself of Junk

Today’s fabulous letter is “K” , of course and it’s one of my favorite letters. Not really sure why, K’s just look elegant when written. Even in print. But “K” today will be for kindness .


Firstly, you have to be kind to yourself. This is a very difficult thing to do , for most of us chronic warriors, as we are generally very “Type A” people , who almost always make sure that everyone, everything, the dog , the cat and the goldfish , get taken care of, before we take care of ourselves.  It’s a very hard habit to break. And of course , all those things DO need taken care of, that’s not the point. The point is, when was the last time you were genuinely kind to yourself?  Allowed yourself a break? Did something strictly for you, other things be hanged? Bet it’s been a while , right? But it’s so , SO important! We use all our energy, will-power, brain -power, and strength , holding other people together , that we forget that our bodies need rest, recharging, and yes, just flat out being kind to yourself. Buy yourself a little something for no reason. Spend 10 minutes longer in the shower. Say “NO” to something that really doesn’t interest you. It will be okay, I promise.  And when you’ve taken care of yourself , secondly comes being able to share that with others!


When you HAVE that extra “oomph” from conserving your spoons, you’re able to give to other people. To truly listen. To have that time to write a friend. To visit someone on a good day. To use that cliche’ , “To pay it forward.”

Even the Bible tells us, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

Have you ever noticed that unhappy people , don’t really like themselves? They don’t know how to be kind to themselves, so they can’t give it away.  When we are truly kind to ourselves, we will have loads of kindness to share with the people we meet.  And to me, making someone else feel loved, or to see that smile when they feel that kindness, sometimes it’s just the medicine the doctor ordered.

Oh, and if I haven’t said it today, I LOVE YOU!! with all my ❤ and 🙂 and as always ((HUGS)) ~ Ruby J.


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