I’ve never been a big resolution-maker. Well, I mean, at least, not at the first of the year , anyway. I’ve never quite understood why people assign such significance to the idea of dates. Those are ALL pretty much man-made observances, if you think about it. New Year’s is not the same the world over. I am a devout Christian, but Jesus was NOT really born on December the 25th, and Christmas really started as a pagan winter celebration regardless. Easter is pagan, Halloween, certainly is. Birthdays, again, a man-made ritual. Anniversaries , the same. Valentine’s , a day to give cards, chocolates and ridiculously expensive jewelry to the one you love in honor of a saint who was martyred. Romantic , right ? A lot of people think it odd that my husband and I don’t really celebrate our anniversaries or birthdays. I don’t wear a ton of jewelry, and have never cared much for gifts from the florists’ shop. We don’t make New Year’s resolutions about how we are going to “do better” or ” treat one another with more respect” etc.
Our boys have picked up on these traditions which has made some of their interactions with others a tad unusual. What people don’t realize however is this…………….we give gifts to each other all year long. We RESOLVE to treat one another with respect every single day. We have had a lot of illness in our family so we try to make each and every day special in our lives. Why wait 6 months til Christmas to buy that sweet gift if you might not BE here at Christmas ? My husband lost his mother when he was very very small. He met me when I was only 16 and I was already extremely ill. When we had our boys he was so afraid that history would repeat itself so we promised to make memories for the boys to keep with them all their lives. We couldn’t dilly -dally around until Easter , or birthdays . Minutes counted, and still do. Now the boys are nearly grown and aren’t really boys anymore. Resolutions aren’t something that they really know about. It’s hard to explain how you want your YEAR to end , when you don’t even know what the end of your DAY will be like! But really absolutely EVERYONE’s lives are this way. They truly are. We don’t know when our time will come. It might be tonight, it might be tomorrow, it might be 5 minutes from now. You don’t have to be ill, or even old. So this year in 2015, instead of RESOLVING to make your year better, let your dreams set sail! Resolve to start right now, resolve to do what brings you JOY , and make every SECOND starting now , better. It will make a bigger difference than you will ever know.